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“Grace is the face love wears when it meets imperfection.“
When I saw this photo on Facebook, I knew this was going to be the subject of my next blog entry. What a great topic!
In Eckankar, our spiritual year begins on October 22, for purely arbitrary reasons, and ends the following October on the 21st. Each year has a spiritual focus. Right now we are in A Year of Consecration, in which we are urged to consecrate our lives to God. Last year was The Year of Graceful Living. in which we were urged to find as many ways as possible to exercise grace in our daily lives.
When I looked around for some basic definition of grace, I realized that there are really three types: physical grace, social grace, and spiritual grace. Let’s look at each of the three.
|My cousin Wayne’s daughter, Lily|
In terms of the body, physical grace has to do with ease and suppleness of movement or bearing. In order to be graceful, a person has to be comfortable with his or her body. Physical grace is something that can be developed. In order to do this, you must first ensure that your body is as healthy as possible. This means getting enough sleep, eating right, and exercising: stretching exercises are just as important as calisthenics. Attention to posture is important, too. People who want to move more gracefully can take dance classes – any type of dance is fine – or acting classes. Public speaking classes can also be useful for developing poise and knowing how to move your body (or not!) as you speak. Attention to how you do the most basic things contributes to grace. Speak clearly, walk with purpose, and sit in a dignified manner, rather than flopping into a chair.
In terms of dress and make up, balance is key. Flashy clothes and particularly bold makeup don’t tend to look very graceful. It’s important that the fit of your clothes doesn’t restrict your movements or cause you to trip while walking or climbing stairs. Unless you are walking up some stairs to receive an award, you will probably not get many kudos for tripping.
In terms of inanimate things, physical grace means a charming or attractive characteristic or a generally pleasing appearance, in addition to pure functionality. Gardens, rooms, pieces of furniture, pieces of art and statuary, ships and boats, and even some cars have been described as graceful.
|Mahatma Mohandas Gandhi and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.|
Social grace refers to qualities that we use in our interpersonal relationships, such as being considerate or helpful, calmness, kindness, stateliness, strength tempered by dignity, eloquence, refinement, and self-control. When people express these inner qualities in their outer deportment, they are considered graceful, or they are said to have handled a situation gracefully.
It’s easy to be graceful in our interactions with others when things are going well, but it’s more important to be able to respond with grace when things are going badly. That’s part of the meaning of the photograph above. When we respond with love and kindness to tough situations and difficult people, we can truly say we are learning to manifest the quality of grace. Grace is truly the result when love meets imperfection.
The web is full of advice on how to resign gracefully; keeping your cool seems to top the list. Tying up loose ends rather than leaving unnecessary work for your successor is a good idea, and saying a pleasant good-bye is important, too, especially if you want to get a good recommendation for your next job application or network with former colleagues in the future.
There is also a lot of advice our there for ending relationships gracefully, being a graceful winner or loser, declining a job offer, declining a social invitation, and accepting compliments – all the things many people are not very good at.
Speaking of things we are not good at, I saw a video today about a photographer who captured his wife’s cancer experience and turned it into a beautiful photo display for all to see. Some of the pictures were very hard to look at, but breathtakingly candid, and I found tears running down my face as I remembered some of my own feelings while I was in treatment for the disease. At the very end of the video they showed some pictures of people just holding his wife’s hand. The photographer, whose wife died in 2011, mentioned something that paralleled my own experience: He said that a lot of their friends and colleagues felt very awkward and didn’t know what to say. Because of this, a lot of their friends stayed away at a time when the support of one’s friends is valued most. (I had this experience, too. Lots of people refused to talk to me or even make eye contact, especially after I lost my hair.) The photographer said he included the pictures of people holding his wife’s hand in order to show people that it’s OK not to say anything, that it’s fine to just hold someone’s hand and support them in any way you can. It’s important that we all learn how to “be there” for people as gracefully as we can, to rise above our own feelings of helplessness and fear, in order to comfort and support others.
Grace under pressure is especially admired. Michael Hill, a professor of English and African American Studies at the University of Iowa, wrote a lovely tribute to Martin Luther King, Jr., who acted with grace and dignity in the face of the endless indignities that he and other African Americans suffered on a daily basis. Acting with love and kindness, albeit with firmness and resolve, is always graceful. Dr. King never seemed to forget the Golden Rule, treating others as he wished to be treated. His insistence on dignity, order, and nonviolence gave power to his civil rights protests, because people were not able to dismiss them so readily as mere rabble-rousing. In fact, Dr. King’s role model for this was Mohandas Gandhi, who led the people of India in a more-or-less peaceful revolution against the British Raj.
When we speak of spiritual grace or divine grace, we are talking about God’s unconditional love and help in our lives, unconditional because we don’t have to do anything or be anything to deserve it. Carolyn Myss wrote, “Grace is a power that comes in and transforms a moment into something better.” Above, I mentioned that social grace is what results when love meets imperfection. I would submit that spiritual grace is the same thing, on a grand scale. Divine grace is the action of God’s unconditional love showered upon every Soul, creating opportunities for us all to grow and change, to turn over a new leaf, to transcend our physical and social programming, and to serve all life to the best of our abilities.
How can we reflect God’s grace in our own lives? How can we live gracefully? None of us is perfect, but we can all grow in grace. We can respond with love to all situations, especially the ones that are the most difficult for us. :-)
As I Began To Love Myself..
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY“.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody. As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.
Today I call it “RESPECT“.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me grow.
Today I call it “MATURITY“.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE“.
As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it “SIMPLICITY“.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health - food, people, things, situations, and everything the drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF“.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since, I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is “MODESTY“.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT“.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART“.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know “THAT IS LIFE“!
- As I Began to Love Myself: Charlie Chaplin on His 70th Birthday (asprinkleoffaith.wordpress.com)
Thump-er in Bambi was a social media prophet
He told Bambi he was ”twitter-pated “
I saw the original movie back in the early forties with my family at Christmas. I never forgot that word. Now I am twitter-pated too!
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For more social media fun
- Focus on service, content and depth of your mission (greatpoetrymhf.wordpress.com)
I attended a webinar presented by Tim Ferriss. He shared how he had “supported bloggers, who supported bloggers, who supported bloggers”. Build your content and encourage those who are building theirs he said.
Slowly I began to venture out and read other blogs. I often shared their great insights and delights. (I had a stroke Jan 19, 2009. I certainly now had the time to follow my dream.)
There were choices to be made. Learn to walk and talk again. Build my empire. Get the depth before I offered my services to others.
Monday of this week Micheal Q Todd, http://facebook.com/michaelqtodd, offered a Fan page day on Facebook. I had built four fan pages. I thought perhaps I am ready. Perhaps it is time. So I jumped in to share my fan pages.
And then the miracle happened.
Among those who “liked” my fan page was Ciaran Connolly http:///www.facebook.com/ciaranconnolly?fref=ts Profile Tree (profiletree.com) Co-founder. I am curious. I clicked on his link and found the page where I could register to offer my service.
After only one hour after registering I had my first client. I wrote the poem. They had the final draft of my poem in 24 hours. I had my fee paid in full 5 minutes later.
Focus on the content
Tim Ferriss had said.
A full 90% of his Webinar
was about content…
and that of other bloggers.
Writing is a solitary mission. You know that.
Michael Q Todd knows about those hours, months, weeks of following your passion. Ciaran Connolly knows about his dedication which he lovingly calls his media addiction.
Tim Ferriss continues to blog every day.
I am excited that
“taking the time
to follow the leaders
and learn from them” worked for me.
Who told me about following
the work habits of the leaders?
My dear friend Cendrine Marrouat.
She has been encouraging me since 2008,
kindly lovingly telling me to follow the leaders.
I knew she was one person I could trust and believe. She encourages many others, has a professional work ethic, builds her social media career by teaching others.
I thank you all
who have contributed
to my building, learning.
Thank you the readers of my blog.
Thank you to the bloggers I read.
Because of your kind encouragement,
I am boldly stepping out to say
- I’m Tim Ferriss, And This Is How I Work (lifehacker.com.au)
- Use Tim Ferriss’ Four-Step Process to Master New Skills (lifehacker.com)
- Tim Ferriss’s Next Big Project: Dinner (inc.com)
- Tim Ferriss On How To Make The Press Love You As Much As The Press Loves Tim Ferriss (fastcompany.com)
We made it through the story tellers’ big bad yarns
We made it through the fields and barns.
We made it through the dark night of Soul.
We made it together…..
“Each of us are born with one wing…..when we share the journey with another we both can FLY” ~Leo Buscaglia http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=opGlp1pE59s
“It is a pleasure to be around someone who’s shining with the Light of God.” ~ Harold Klemp
- Truth is so simple. Contemplation Harold Klemp The Language of Soul (greatpoetrymhf.wordpress.com)
- The longing for God (greatpoetrymhf.wordpress.com)
- Combining Contemplation and Dreams http://www.eckankar.org/SEW/index.html (greatpoetrymhf.wordpress.com)
- Wandering here with the Beloved (greatpoetrymhf.wordpress.com)
“LOVE” Acrylic on board by Pam Ellis (P.A.Ellis Vision Art and photography)
As an artist
one pours every ounce of love and passion,
emotion and pure life force
into all that they create.
From the tiniest piece of prose,
shared with a friend to the grandest masterpiece
bestowed upon the world.
Each piece of art contains life,
the pure essence of love from the heart
of the artist who has birthed
their creation into the world.
Through ecstasy, bliss and often
through painful, heart searing truth
in the message
that is meant to BE.
It takes guts to be an artist.
A true, undying golden heart,
called upon by a higher source
to give up part of themselves
as they allow their body, mind and spirit
to be used as a channel for the Divine
to flow through in the moment.
Artist, lover of life… they are one and the same.
A beautiful artist I once knew used to say that hanging your work was like hanging yourself naked for the entire world to see. She was right. And here I am hanging naked… Can you see me?
You might ask… Why would we do it?
My answer… How could we not?
Being an artist is a calling
that we ALL have in our own way.
We are all channels
for the Divine Creative Spirit
to flow though.
Some of us are simply drawn
to allow IT to possess us fully,
completely with love undying,
unashamed and uncensored.
We are possessed,
with the Spirit,
allowing IT to flow through
with earth shattering force,
torn open raw edge.
Taking chances we ride on the fringe of the unknown.
We are the ones
with one foot in heaven and one in hell.
Sharing the greatest depth
of love from all worlds,
states of consciousness,
and everywhere in between.
Would you have it any other way?
This is love. This is free. This is authentic creativity!
Circle of selflessness
In the body of existence you are your only audience
As your particles we live in your core, in your ambiance
You are so far away from yourself but also so close
In the circle of selflessness we go stealthy on your toes.